When you try to follow a healthy eating plan, do you find yourself “good” in the early part of the day, only to fall apart as the hours go by? Or perhaps you’re on a roll for a week (or two), but then dieting fatigue sets in and you’re back to old habits. 

It’s a common scenario we run across all the time. A burst of good intentions that fade when willpower eventually runs out. 

Here’s the thing.

The problem with relying on willpower is that willpower is finite.

Research shows that it’s like a muscle. You overuse it and it fatigues. If you don’t let it rest sufficiently enough to recover, it won’t be much use to you for the rest of the day.

Sadly, most women wind up beating themselves up and/or feeling “weak” because their willpower fails them.

If this resonates with you, we have some good news. You don’t HAVE to rely on willpower!

The approach we share has been an absolute game changer for many of our clients, who were tired of feeling powerless over cravings and temptations. We are sure this can work for you, too 🙂

Intrigued? Read or watch below to learn how we ditch willpower and what we do instead. 


Ok, so we’ve established that willpower is not something to be counted on.

So what’s the solution?

Use some willpower to get you going, and then employ what we call Skillpower to do the bulk of the work.

Skillpower is all about learning and using specific skills, which are tools and strategies that foster the right habits to keep you on track.

We want to be sure we are clear on this, because it does take most people by surprise . . .Willpower is OUT. Having the right strategies and the tools, or Skillpower, is IN.

We love how simple but powerful that is. Think about it – if you don’t have the right tools, how can you expect to stick to something long term? You can’t!

So instead of relying on willpower, ask yourself this question: What are the right tools and strategies I need to create an environment for success?

We’re gonna get you started by sharing three common challenges people face and how we use skillpower vs willpower to overcome them.

3 Willpower Challenges + 3 Solutions

Challenge 1) Afternoon slump

It’s the middle of the afternoon and you’re crashing and needing a pick me up. Willpower is totally shot at this point. Your first thought, what can I grab to eat right now! The cookie jar, ice cream, chocolate, and chips are calling your name!

But with SKILLPOWER in your corner, you’ve strategically prepped and placed healthy snacks in plain sight. So it’s as simple to grab and go as the chips or cookies.

Challenge 2) Dinner dread

How often does this happen. It’s 6 o’clock and you have no idea what you’ll eat for dinner.

Maybe in the past you would have grabbed an unhealthy takeout meal. But if you’ve developed the SKILL to stock your freezer well, you’re golden. Just pull something out and heat it up. We have lots of great ideas in our quick easy freezer handout.

Challenge 3) Eating your emotions
This is a huge topic that we spend a lot of time working on with clients in depth, but we’d like to share a pearl or two here that can be super helpful.

Let’s first state the obvious – willpower is not the antidote to stave off emotional eating!

So if that’s the case, where does Skillpower fit in?

Well let’s say you had a terrible argument with a close friend. Maybe your normal low willpower reaction is to head to the fridge or pantry and grab cookies or ice cream – anything sweet that you think will make you feel better. From past experience, you know that willpower won’t stop you from reaching for food.

But here is something we want you to think about. Your brain may be wired to seek out food in response to your emotion. The good news is, your brain CAN be rewired to do something different, and it has nothing to do with willpower. The SKILL here is to retrain your brain.

We like to share this simple but effective exercise with clients. Close your eyes, and imagine feeling the emotion but not having any access to food. What would you do in that situation? How would you deal with the emotion? You could Punch a pillow, go for a brisk walk around the block or call a friend. Seriously, put some thought into this exercise and have some good answers so you are well prepared when your next emotional eating trigger occurs and you don’t need to rely on willpower

We know these are not easy strategies and do take practice, but once you have them down and begin using them regularly, they are MUCH more effective than willpower and will never run out on you.